Mean Spited in need of God’s Love maybe?
Jesus was clear as to how our attitude should be always in Matthew 10:16, "Be wise as serpents, and harmless as doves."
Here are five (although I could give you 50) signs that you might be a mean-spirited leader:
1. You are quick to "accuse." This is always found specifically in the leaders of ministries who produce mean Christians. Leaders are quick to point out the failures of others, and then put them in "time out" for a specific period of time. They do this because they are "experts" at pointing out the sin more so than they are at bringing healing and restoration. They have no clue how to deal with sin because they have spent years filling their hearts with spite instead of genuine grace. Don't be this kind of a leader!
My friends, these are real curses being spoken into weak Christians. Many of these weak Christians buy into this nonsense out of pure ignorance and end eventually end up in very bad personal situations simply because mean bullies who call themselves Christians went about spewing poison into these innocent lives. Don't be this kind of a leader!
5. Your heart has been "hardened." Matthew 15:8 says, "These people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me." A Pharisee's heart is always far from God. What I have found is that when you are hard with people you are miles from God. There are lots and lots of such mean Pharisees within the church. I have had numerous opportunities to confront mean leaders whose hearts have been hardened, and many of them have refused to see the error of their leadership and have gone on to wreck so many lives.
There is a good reason why Jesus basically told his disciples in Matthew 7:22 that there will be people who will stand before Him on the day of judgment and who thought they were doing the right thing, but will face open rejection. Mean leaders are taking a huge gamble at treating others with spite. Jesus also told his disciples in John 13:35 that the world will know we belong to Him by the "love" we show toward each other. Be this kind of a leader!